Living on your own signals the beginning of one of the biggest transitional stages of life. While we may initially perceive this period as being one of independence, it is more of a learning curve. When we move out of our parent’s or guardian’s house, we begin a journey of supporting ourselves. Moreover, as we learn to support ourselves on our own, we will encounter intense emotional and lifestyle changes.
You never know how much you miss the little things – like mom’s cooking or dad’s jokes – until you move out. Eventually, experiences of your own will replace these and you will look back fondly on what you once had. However, when you move out, you may initially feel homesickness, loneliness, and insecurity. Read on as we discuss ways you can boost your mental health as you transition to living on your own.
The Excitement and Challenge of Living on Your Own
Walking into your first apartment or dorm room, box in hand, the surroundings resonate with possibility. The walls, devoid of the familiar sights and sounds of your childhood room, echo the thrill and excitement of beginning anew. As the door clicks shut behind you, it feels like more than just a door closing—it signifies the end of an old era and the dawn of something new, punctuated with the challenges and adventures that await.
Amidst the novelty of this newfound independence, the weight of responsibilities can often creep in. Balancing the academic rigors of higher education, navigating the new territory of monthly bills, and perhaps even seeking Treatment for Panic Disorder Options—all become part of the landscape. Yet, despite these daunting tasks, the experience of forging your own path and making decisions on your terms infuses every day with a sense of purpose.
Yet, for all its invigorating moments, moving out isn’t without its pangs of loneliness. Gone are the familiar safety nets, replaced by an overarching need for self-reliance. The sudden realization that each hiccup, big or small, is yours to handle can evoke a whirlwind of emotions, some of which might be entirely new. It’s crucial to understand that such feelings are a natural part of transitioning from the cocoon of childhood to the expansive world of adulthood.
As you unpack that box and start arranging your belongings, remember this: every challenge you face, whether it’s homesickness, managing finances, or even seeking Treatment for Panic Disorder Options, contributes to your growth. Embrace the journey with open arms, and soon, this unfamiliar space will feel like home.
The Emotional Toll of Living on Your Own
Moving out on our own can indeed take an emotional toll. There are many reasons why we may choose to live on our own. We may want to live independently, move out to live on a university campus, or choose to live with a partner or roommate. These are generally positive reasons to begin this transition, but it is still very common to have doubts. In addition, it is common to feel unsure about your decision to move out.
Sometimes we may have no choice but to move away from home. This can be especially true if we experience ongoing conflict with our families, but can also be true for more positive reasons like moving away for college. Nevertheless, here are some tips for a successful move:
- Make your decision carefully. Look at costs, and make financial decisions like choosing to rent where you can afford.
- Be realistic with your budget.
- Communicate with your roommates and neighbors to avoid misunderstandings.
- Keep in touch with your parents or family regularly to avoid homesickness.
- Work out schedules and house rules with anyone you live with, and accept that they might have their own conditions.
- Ask for help when you need it. We all need help sometimes.
What if We Find Our Way Back? Overcoming the Boomerang Effect
Here is a new term for you: “boomeranging back.” This is a relatively new sociological term. Many people who transition out of their parents’ homes are finding their way back thereafter. Often due to circumstances in the job market and the economy, young people are frequently forced to move back home.
This can leave young millennials and members of Generation Z feeling distraught, as though they have failed. The reality is that we all have missteps. Moving back home can be a time when we learn lessons from what has happened and take important steps, like saving money for the next time we seek our independence.
Viewing Each Stage of Life Transitionally
It is important to view every stage of life through a transitional lens. When we view life as a transitional process, it enables us to embrace change as a necessary step to personal growth. Life is, after all, a series of interconnected chapters. By moving out on your own, you have turned the page from one chapter of your life to the next.
Therapy plays an integral role in how we can adjust to the new periods in our lives. Having a trusted confidant in a counselor or peers in group counseling to confide in can make all the difference. Whether we need a safe and confidential space in one-on-one therapy or friends to support us, Alter Wellness Care is here to meet your every need.
Living on Your Own (With a Little Help!)
Living on your own can be especially hard if you have been previously diagnosed with a mental health disorder. Even if this is the case, your care team at Alter Wellness Care can help you. We can provide you with the counseling, resources, and care you need to make this transition in life a success.
You will undoubtedly encounter problems as you move away from home. Fortunately, therapies like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) may help you to deal with the changes happening around you. In addition, group therapy can help you to recognize that you are not alone in what you are experiencing. Together we can face any challenge, one day at a time.
Moving out of your parent’s home for the first time is a big moment in life, just as significant as your high school graduation or your wedding day. It is one of those milestone moments you will never forget, a day when you flex your independence for the first time. Standing up for yourself in the world is a big accomplishment, and it comes with big risks and big challenges. Sometimes this can leave you feeling homesick, lonely, insecure, and even scared. Seeking help from your trusted care team at Alter Wellness Care is a smart move to ensure wellness as you transition to independence. Call us today at (866) 311-3510 and learn how we can help.